
A pregnancy is not an easy thing to go through, especially so if you’re Chinese and even more so if you are moving house. There are just so many pantangs and customs, we couldn’t possibly follow them all.
For one thing, you’re not supposed to do any house renovations. The believe is that whatever nailing, drilling, demolishing work you do to the house will happen to the baby too. Everyone swears by this. Every single Chinese parent who has done any amount of house redecorating has a kid with some sort of mark, scar or minor deformity that they attribute to the time they ignored the renovation rule. Some say you don’t do any renovation work at the house you stay at, some say none whatsoever at any house you own, while some say its okay as long as the pregnant lady is not in when the work is being done. We decided to go with the one that is convenient to us so we say it’s okay to renovate our new house as long as we stay in the old apartment until all the work is done and that my wife only visits the new place on Sundays when no work is being done.
With regards to my RC car hobby, we came up with a long and complex list of things I can and cannot do. I cannot saw, drill, cut, tap, nail, grind or file anything when my wife is in. For health reasons, we’ve decided I also will not solder, spray paint, or work with any type of superglue, epoxy, solvents or aerosols when she’s in. I can screw bolts in with a manual screwdriver but not an electric one, and then only into holes that have pre-existing screw threads. I can cut things with scissors or nail clippers but not on the bed and preferably outside the bedroom. My wife had to sew a button on my shirt the other day and she followed the not-on-the-bed rule, so she did it on the living room couch, which kind of boggled me because wherever she was doing it, the baby was still going to be inches away from the needle.
Another extension of the no-redecorating rule is that we’re not supposed to move any furniture around. When we move into the new place, we’re buying a whole new set of furniture. It’s expensive but it just has to be done, because we’re Chinese. Around our current place, we’ve toned down the rule a little and separated the furniture into two sizes. Chairs and anything smaller are considered small furniture and it is okay to move them, which is a real blessing because otherwise we’d be dining on the floor. Anything bigger than a chair is big furniture with the one exception of the ladder, which to be fair, isn’t really furniture. Big furniture cannot be moved. Our air-conditioner service repair guy came to clean the unit in our bedroom yesterday and had to hunch over a tall bookshelf to get the dust out.
Strictly speaking, we’re not supposed to move house before the baby is born and some people say even not after. We couldn’t possibly follow everybody’s rules, so we’re moving in a month before he’s due.
The other day, my wife was at the dentist and had some cavity work done. The baby was really fidgeting inside her. She said it must have sounded really loud and upset him. Then she suddenly grabbed my arm and said, “Oh no! We’re not supposed to do any reno.”
I said, “But it’s okay as long as you’re not around.”
“But I’ve just been renovated!”